Ask Dr. B
Each week, Dr. Bengtson answers reader questions about things of interest to them.
Blog posts detailing each question and answer are listed below.
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Have you ever looked around you at all the seemingly joyful people and wondered where they got their joy? Or how they maintained it? Joy is different from happiness. [more]read more
How do you cope when things in your life turn sideways, or make you feel tossed upside down? I remember those days. They’ve left me feeling like I’d been battered against the ocean floor unable to catch my breath on several occasions. [more]read more
Have you ever been down and wondered what you can do about it? The Bible gives us many examples of things we can do. [more]read more
Have you ever gone through a difficult season that required fervent prayer? The kind of prayer that was always ready on your lips without you even having to think about what to pray? The kind of prayer that burned deep in your heart waiting for answers? [more]read more
What do you do when you’re going through the difficult times, the storms, of life? Do you get angry? Cry? Scream? Lament with trusted friends? Pray? [more]read more
Dear Dr. B,
I have struggled to get on with my life. Things I’ve done in my past keep me from enjoying the present. It’s so hard to forgive myself because I hate what I did and how I behaved. I feel guilty and undeserving of my life today, which is not at all like my past life. I continue to carry the shame from decades ago and just can’t move on. Can you help?
Unable to Forgive Myself
Dear Dr. B,
How can I know the difference between God’s voice, my voice and the enemy’s voice? I know God speaks, I’m just not sure which voice is His.
A Concerned Listener
Your question is one that many Christ-followers have asked at some point in their journey! I’m so glad you asked because the enemy would like you to believe that you can’t hear God’s voice, but the truth is God is speaking all the time—we just have to learn to become more attuned to hearing His voice and discerning the difference between His voice and the enemy’s voice.
Dear Dr. B,
Are there simple prayers I can pray for my children? I know I should be praying for them daily, I’m just not sure what I should pray.
Dear Prayerful Parent,
I don’t generally recommend that you pray according to any specific formula per se. However, that being said, I do think that there are several areas of our children’s lives that it is important that as parents, we cover them in prayer.
Dear Dr. B,
I get so easily distracted that it keeps me from being more effective in my personal and professional life. How can I keep my mind from wandering or being distracted by a million things?
Driven to Distraction
Everyone gets distracted from time to time, but it sounds like what you are describing is more than an occasional distractibility. [more]
Dear Dr. B,
I feel like God didn’t answer my prayers and I’m so discouraged. How can I restore my faith and hope in God when I’m devastated?
Prayed but Discouraged
I’m so sorry you’re discouraged in your prayer life. I have been there several times in the course of my life, and it’s a painful place to sit. Because I’ve been there, I can assure you that you aren’t alone, although I know that that is only mildly encouraging when you are actually going through it. And let’s be honest, shall we? When we pray, we want God to answer our prayers the way we want them answered, when we want them answered! [more]
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