Ask Dr. B
Each week, Dr. Bengtson answers reader questions about things of interest to them.
Blog posts detailing each question and answer are listed below.
To submit a question, please use the CONTACT section below.
Dear Dr. B,
I have struggled to get on with my life. Things I’ve done in my past keep me from enjoying the present. It’s so hard to forgive myself because I hate what I did and how I behaved. I feel guilty and undeserving of my life today, which is not at all like my past life. I continue to carry the shame from decades ago and just can’t move on. Can you help?
Unable to Forgive Myself
Dear Dr. B,
How can I know the difference between God’s voice, my voice and the enemy’s voice? I know God speaks, I’m just not sure which voice is His.
A Concerned Listener
Your question is one that many Christ-followers have asked at some point in their journey! I’m so glad you asked because the enemy would like you to believe that you can’t hear God’s voice, but the truth is God is speaking all the time—we just have to learn to become more attuned to hearing His voice and discerning the difference between His voice and the enemy’s voice.
Dear Dr. B,
Are there simple prayers I can pray for my children? I know I should be praying for them daily, I’m just not sure what I should pray.
Dear Prayerful Parent,
I don’t generally recommend that you pray according to any specific formula per se. However, that being said, I do think that there are several areas of our children’s lives that it is important that as parents, we cover them in prayer.
Dear Dr. B,
I get so easily distracted that it keeps me from being more effective in my personal and professional life. How can I keep my mind from wandering or being distracted by a million things?
Driven to Distraction
Everyone gets distracted from time to time, but it sounds like what you are describing is more than an occasional distractibility. [more]
Dear Dr. B,
I feel like God didn’t answer my prayers and I’m so discouraged. How can I restore my faith and hope in God when I’m devastated?
Prayed but Discouraged
I’m so sorry you’re discouraged in your prayer life. I have been there several times in the course of my life, and it’s a painful place to sit. Because I’ve been there, I can assure you that you aren’t alone, although I know that that is only mildly encouraging when you are actually going through it. And let’s be honest, shall we? When we pray, we want God to answer our prayers the way we want them answered, when we want them answered! [more]
In this article, a reader on Ask Dr. B asks how to prevent sleep loss when she is so tired she can hardly stay awake, but something grabs her attention and jolts her mind awake. I cover 5 factors that rob us of sleep quality as well as tips to make healthy changes to improve your quality of sleep and your functioning during the day.read more
Dear Dr. B,
Praying seems so hard, how can I choose the right words? Am I making it harder than it really is?
Praying but Perplexed
I’m glad you took the time to ask the question rather than giving up. Scripture says we have an enemy who seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), and he would like nothing better than to convince you that praying is hard so that he can steal your zeal to pray, kill your motivation, and destroy your prayer life. So let’s determine together that that will not happen!
Today on Ask Dr. B, a reader asks:
Dear Dr. B, I’ve heard that you overcome negativity by speaking the truth instead. Do you have any practical applications for how to put that into practice? Sincerely, Nagged by the Negative
Dr. Bengtson shares 4 simple yet effective steps to combat negativity including 9 truths from God’s word that you can speak when you recognize a lie from the enemy.read more
This week while Dr. Bengtson is continuing to recover from a several week-long bout with pneumonia, her friend and author, Kristine Brown, will be answering a question based on her newly released book, “Over It. Conquering Comparison to Live Out God’s Plan.” A reader asks: I enjoy social media, but it seems like everyone I see has a life that looks like a fairy tale, which leaves me feeling like the only person with issues. I know in my head this isn’t true, so how can I keep from feeling this way? Kristine Brown shares four steps you can take towards conquering comparison.read more
This week while Dr. Bengtson is continuing to recover from a several week-long bout with pneumonia, her friend and author Jayme Hull, will be answering a question based on her newly released book, “Face To Face Discover How Mentoring Can Change Your Life.”
I know your book is about mentoring but how did your passion for mentoring begin?
Great question. When I arrived in NYC to become a Broadway star, I often felt about two inches tall and totally lost. Just a number in a huge crowd, surrounded by highly competitive people. Sure, I attended classes and knew a few people but I was not connected and certainly not plugged into a close community. [more]read more
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