Dear Dr. B,
Do you ever have those times when you want to pray, you just don’t know what to pray? What do you do then?
Thank You.
Desiring to Pray

Dear Desiring to Pray,
I congratulate you on your desire. That pleases God tremendously. He created us to be in relationship with Him, and our relationship grows most with Him when we are in prayerful conversation with Him.

I have had those times in my prayer life when I’ve been at a loss for words. Sometimes because the pain in my life has been so great that I just didn’t even know how to express the pain or my need to God. While at other times I’ve been so overtaken with God’s goodness that sometimes I’ve been at a loss for words.

These prayer points will help when you don’t know what to pray.

10 Things to Pray When You Aren’t Sure What To Pray

  1. Praise God for who He is. When we don’t know what to pray, one of the best places to start is praising God for who He is. Praising Him can help prepare our heart and mind for further prayer, to be transparent before Him and to hear from Him.
  2. Prayer of thanksgiving to God. Further, begin thanking Him for what He has done for you and how He has provided for you in the past. So often we enter prayer with a mindset of sharing with God our needs and desires, when just as we as parents delight in hearing our own children’s gratitude, our Heavenly Father loves to hear our gratitude for all the ways He has blessed us already.
  3. Prayer to hear God’s voice. If you’re unsure of what to pray, you might also pray that He will help you hear His voice clearly.
  4. Prayer for God’s prompting. Don’t be afraid to ask Him to prompt you regarding what you should pray.
  5. Prayer for repentance and forgiveness. Scripture says that it is God’s kindness that leads us to repentance, and that others will know we are Christians by our love. Pray that God will reveal any unconfessed sin that you need to repent of, and anyone that you need to forgive that is standing in the way of you fully loving others.
  6. Prayer for wisdom and discernment. God longs for our hearts to be quickened to the desires of His spirit. Pray for wisdom and discernment of His will.
  7. Prayer for obedience. And, along with that, pray that He will help you quickly and readily obey His leading.
  8. Prayer for courage to shine your light. We live in very dark times and we are called to be a light in dark places. Pray that God will infuse you with courage to let your light shine so that you can be a positive impact for the kingdom in your area of influence.
  9. Prayer for continued growth and maturity. It can be very easy to become complacent when things are going well or to focus on our struggle rather than our growth when difficulties befall us. Pray that God will continue to grow and mature you in the wisdom and knowledge of Him.
  10. Prayer for unity in the church. Those who are in church leadership and ministry positions will be judged more harshly. They work long hours in demanding positions. Yet there is still much work to be done. Pray for unity within God’s church, protection for His leaders, and effectiveness of the church’s outreach to the nations.



At times, you want to pray, but you don't know what to pray. Use these 10 areas as a starting point. Ask God to bring other areas to your remembrance.

There are so many other things that you could pray when you don’t know what to pray, but hopefully this will give you a place to start. I’m sure that once you start, He will bring other things to mind.

I’d love to hear other things you pray for when you aren’t sure what to pray, in the comments below.




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Have you ever wanted to pray but you were at a loss for words? I’ve been there. At times, you just need some inspiration. These 10 things to pray when you aren’t sure what to pray are a good starting point. Once you start to pray, God will bring other things to mind. #God #prayer #prayerpoints