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Today you’re in for a treat with this guest post by my friend, and fellow author, Kelly Balarie. She has written the new book “Battle Ready: Train Your Mind to Conquer Challenges, Defeat Doubt, and Live Victoriously.” We all can benefit from the wisdom she has gained in becoming a woman who is battle ready.
5 Battle Tools To Help In Hard Moments
By: Kelly Balarie
She didn’t so much as say hi to me. In fact, even worse, she walked right past me, looking the other direction. She pretended I wasn’t there. Hmph!! After all I’ve done for her. After all I’ve given her. After how I’ve gone out of my way to love her.
Now I’m the one left looking like a crazed waving-at-the-air fool. Like – an idiot.
I humph at her husband along the way to my church seat. Silently, I critique her in my mind, She’s rude. Before not too long, I get side-tracked by own thoughts: Everyone always hurts me. Like that boy, I asked to dance in 4th grade. Like those girls who circled up to whisper about me in that damp locker room. Like the group of women who act like they’re far better than me.
I’m supposed to be listening in church, but who can listen, thinking about all this, all them!?
Here, I find myself, in the heat of a horrible battle. You can always tell if you’re in the heat-of-a-battle. Almost instantly, your soul-crushing problem magnifies 100x larger than your promise-keeping God. Suddenly, you’re standing weaponless, in all-out combat within your own mind. Hardly able to win.
Ever been there?
I’ve struggled through a lot – through massive health-scares, depression, an eating disorder, financial debt and relationship-severing dramas. Battles. Huge, hard-fought battles, loaded with momentary decisions of pain, struggle and uncertainty.
I remember the time:
1. The doctor returned to the room with the clipboard saying, “You really might have Mulitple Sclerosis.”
I thought: How do I keep my thoughts close to God with this kind of news?
2. My colicky newborn made me pace my hallways 24-7. Sleepless, hardly-thinking and powerless to change my health-situation, I didn’t know what to do.
I thought: How do I still love people when my whole life is unraveling?
3. A family member called me to say I really should get on setting up long-term care for myself.
I thought: How do I deal with the fact all my dreams will now look different than I thought?
Through all this, I realized, real wisdom is having a battle-plan.
Let’s talk about Christ-centered battle-plan preparedness. Begin by asking yourself: What am I currently facing?
Identifying your main struggles (resentment, regret, trauma, unforgiveness, bitterness, anger, fear) is to allow God to help you win your battle. For example, for me, underneath that issue with the girl, was an old war full of rejection, humiliation, and abandonment from years past. Underneath, were old battles I’d lost – because they were left unaddressed. Therefore, they left me with resentment towards God.
Seeing our battles for what they are, gives us a clear-cut strategy to fight – and win. It also removes all the pent-up offenses that, like plaque, cover our heart.
What about you? Do you emotionally respond to happenings set before you or do you wisely act based on God’s Word and promises?
Today, you can fight your battle a new way. Consider:
- Asking God what feelings of fear, worry, anger, resentment, neglect and hurt He desires you give to him.
- Giving those hurts to Jesus, by saying, “Jesus, I am not meant to carry these. Forgive me. They’ve hurt me for far too long. I know and believe you have peace, joy, life and freedom for me as I give you these things.”
- Blessing any women who have hurt you.
- Reframing your moments of hurt. (Example: when she passed by me quickly, she was probably was in a rush, she might have had something to do or she lost in thought)
- Returning to a heart of love. (Example: Thank you God that you love me and I can love others. In fact, I can love the very person who hurt me by ___.)
This is the start of being Battle Ready. There truly are practical insights, wise biblical instructions and truths that can help you rise above the mayhem of trials and hardships. You can find the light of Christ and step into all God has for you.
The victory belongs to the Lord. Isn’t it time you began to make room for it?
About Battle Ready: Train Your Mind to Conquer Challenges, Defeat Doubt & Live Victoriously
Battle Ready is a hands-on scriptural plan that teaches you twelve easy-to-implement, confidence-building mind-sets designed to transform your thoughts and, therefore, your life. You’ll gain practical wisdom, like how to
- make new habits stick in just five steps
- disarm the seven most common attacks that plague women
- exchange self-limiting thoughts for purpose-driven, love-releasing thoughts
- implement thirty-second mind-lifters that deliver peace
- create boundaries so you live life full of what matters
Buy Battle Ready here: Battle Ready: Train Your Mind to Conquer Challenges, Defeat Doubt, and Live Victoriously.
To get Battle Ready freebies – printables, devotional reminders, a customizable daily Battle Plan and the “Find Your Battle Style” quiz, visit: www.iambattleready.com.
Click here to order the companion Battle Ready Daily Prayer Journal that will help you practically change your thoughts, then your life.
About the Author
Kelly Balarie, an author and national speaker, is on a mission to encourage others not to give up. Through times of extreme testing, Kelly believes there is hope for every woman, every battle and in every circumstance. She shares this hope on her blog, Purposeful Faith, and on many writing publications such as Relevant, Crosswalk, and Today’s Christian Woman. Kelly’s work has been featured on The Today Show, 700 Club Interactive, Moody Radio and other television and radio broadcasts. When Kelly is not writing, she is chilling at the beach with her husband, a latte, and 2-toddlers who rightfully demand she build them awesome castles.
Thank you Kelly for your insights and your encouragement! I have walked this path of unwanted thoughts, the fear and anxiety you speak of. I want to always be Battle Ready!
I love the idea of being battle ready–going on the offensive, not reacting in the defensive. Armed and battle ready!
I love how Kelly is so open about the inner battles we all face and then supplies practical steps to win them. Great post and great book.
Doesn’t it help to see from fellow sisters in Christ that we aren’t alone? And, that we can fight this battle together! #BetterTogether #HopePrevails
Thank you for sharing Kelly. I need to get my eyes reading it. Thank you for sharing with Grace & Truth Christian Link-Up.
Thanks so much for giving us the opportunity to share encouraging truths, like those we need to be Battle Ready. Blessings!
We are so prone to be self centered when we consider what goes on around us and never bother to think what might be going on in another person’s life that caused them to act toward us in an unloving way. When we learn to take our eyes off ourselves (and our hurts) we can be much more ready to become instruments of God to bring healing instead of tools of the enemy to create more pain. thanks for this post
You are so right. The enemy is always trying to get us to focus on ourselves instead of on God or the needs of others. It’s one of his primary tactics. But greater is HE who is in us than he who is in the world. Because of Him, #HopePrevails!
I loved Kelly’s book :).