Many of us struggle to find meaning in suffering, yet there is often a hidden purpose in the pain we endure. Like Job, our most challenging experiences can teach us resilience, deepen our faith, and guide us to comfort others with the comfort we have received from God.
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Understanding How Your Pain has Purpose
The Bible teaches us through Job’s trials that not only does your pain have purpose, but that God has a purpose for your pain.
Like many of us, I feel a deep connection with Job, whose story is a powerful reminder that God has a purpose for your pain. At various times in my life, I related to his seemingly relentless suffering. Yet I could only aspire to navigate the trials with such fortitude and grace as Job displayed.
The Bible referred to Job as “blameless” and of “complete integrity.” He not only “feared God” but he “stayed away from evil.” Job was wealthy by many standards and considered the richest man in his area: he had seven sons and three daughters, 7,000 sheep, 3,000 camels, 500 teams of oxen, 500 female donkeys, and many servants.
In the first chapter of Job it is recounted where all his oxen and donkeys were stolen and all his farmhands were killed. Before that messenger could even finish sharing such devastating news, another messenger arrived to declare that all his sheep and shepherds were killed in a fire. While the second messenger was speaking, a third messenger arrived with the news that while Job’s son and daughters were sharing a feast, a powerful wind swept in from the wilderness, hitting the house from all sides, causing it to collapse and kill all Job’s children. While many of us would blame God, Job did not. In devastation and grief, Job tore his robe and shaved his head, then did what most of us would consider unthinkable: he fell to the ground and worshiped God.
How God Has a Purpose for Your Pain: Lessons from Job
As if the loss of his livelihood and all his children wasn’t enough, God then allowed Satan to inflict Job with illness in the form of painful boils from head to foot. At that point even his wife suggested that Job should curse God and die, but Job did not relent. The continued trials underscored a crucial lesson: God has purpose for your pain.
Again sinless in his response, he replied by saying that it was not right to only accept good things from God’s hand and not be willing to accept anything bad.
Three of Job’s friends came to comfort him and share in his anguish. Their initial response was to loudly wail, tear their robes, then sit silently on the ground with him for seven days and nights. Then something interesting happened. After seven days of silence, in Job 3, Job finally speaks, but he begins to complain and he cursed the day he was born. In Job 4, Eliphaz tried to speak life to Job when he reminded Job, “In the past you have encouraged many people; you have strengthened those who were weak. Your words have supported those who were falling; you encouraged those with shaky knees. But now when trouble strikes, you lose heart. You are terrified when it touches you. Doesn’t your reverence for God give you confidence? Doesn’t your life of integrity give you hope?” (Job 4:5-7)
In the waiting for God to intervene in his desperate times, in his humanness, Job began to struggle. He began to question the purpose for both his life and his suffering, and wonder how much longer he would have to endure. Zophar offered a key insight to the question regarding the purpose in Job’s pain: “Having hope will give you courage. You will be protected and will rest in safety. You will lie down unafraid, and many will look to you for help” (Job 11:18-19).
Your Pain Has a Purpose: Encouragement and Hope
Oh how I appreciate the vulnerability and transparency with which Job shared with his trusted friends. While God considered him blameless and full of integrity, relentless suffering took its toll on Job. Job was a man—he wasn’t perfect, and he certainly wasn’t Jesus. He had his limits, he had his doubts, he had his questions, and when he reached the end of himself he even had his complaints—plenty of them. Through his trials that would test any man, he didn’t cave to the peer pressure to curse or blame God, yet he was real and honest about the gravity of his suffering.
Over the years, our family has gone through a succession of difficult life circumstances, one right after another. Some that I don’t share about publicly because they impact other family members so it isn’t just my story to tell. Just to name a few, we’ve managed multiple bouts with cancer. On the same day that my book Hope Prevails: Insights From a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression released, my husband was diagnosed with cancer. I had just turned in my manuscript for Breaking Anxiety’s Grip: How To Reclaim the Peace God Promises about exchanging our worries, fears, and anxieties for God’s peace when I received my first cancer diagnosis. Over the years, more than a couple people have jokingly asked if I have felt a little like “Jobette.”
As an author, speaker, and neuropsychologist, I live a bit of a public life. I share fairly openly about my life, and believe there is value in being vulnerable and transparent. That was the impetus behind writing “Hope Prevails”: I believe that in sharing my story, others will find comfort and help.
A few years ago, a friend delivered a meal to our home to help ease the stress of mealtime during a chemotherapy week. As she set the meal on our kitchen counter, she asked, “How are you two? I mean really?” We shared the latest in terms of treatment, and how our boys were coping with the impact of cancer on the family. She followed up by saying, “I talk about you two all the time. As long as I’ve known you, almost 20 years, you’ve constantly inspired me with your faith, despite what gets thrown at you. You still have a smile on your face. What if this didn’t happen for you or your faith, but for others’ faith to grow?” Hmmm. In essence, what if this isn’t about you—what if it’s about encouraging others through your own trials?
We walked past the taco fixings and the still-hot, gooey goodness of fresh-baked brownies on the counter as I escorted her to the door, but while our parting was brief, her words kept coming back to my mind. What if, just like Job has been an inspiration to me, our suffering is an opportunity for us to inspire and encourage others?
Wouldn’t that just make the enemy mad, bring beauty for ashes, and give God all the glory?
Finding Courage in Knowing Your Pain Has Purpose
God is not a cruel God. He weeps when we weep and reminds us through every hardship that your pain has purpose and God has a purpose for your pain.
He does not want to see His children suffer. I am convinced that because He promises to work all things together for our good (Romans 8:28), that there is a purpose for our pain, and encouraging others may just be one of those purposes.
How might your suffering be an encouragement to others?
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So sorry for your pain. I’ll pass on your post to my friend whose nephew was in a motorcyle crash on Sat and died yesterday. Suffering indeed. Age 25.
I’m so very sorry. My heart swells with compassion for your friend. I pray that the God of all comfort will minister to their pain like only He can, and that He will use their pain for good and His glory. Because of Him, #HopePrevails!
I love the story of Job. It has often been an encouragement in my life. One of my favorite verses is “Though He slay me, yet will I trust in Him.” Oh, how I long for such a faith. I’m sorry you and your family are going through so much pain, Michelle. It must be so overwhelming at times. Praying Jesus will hold each of you close and give you strength for each day! I hope Thanksgiving will be filled with special surprises of God’s love! Hugs!
Trudy, I love that verse! Job’s was a faith to aspire to! Thank you for your prayers. Because of Him, #HopePrevails!
Thank you so much for sharing your story. You are truly an encouragement! In the midst of my pain, I have felt God’s powerful and strong yet loving and gentle Presence, and I have seen how He is already working to encourage others through it all. Hope really does prevail. I pray that you will find comfort through your trials and that you may draw your strength from Him. God bless you!
Aw, Michelle! I’ve watched through Facebook and your blogging ministry the faith of your family through so much pain! I recently mentioned you all in a Bible Study, sharing just this. One of the ways God has used the great difficulties in your life this year has been through your testimony to who the Lord is throughout. You have encouraged me, and as I shared with the study, them too. I know there are many others. We prayed for you and have your family on the prayer list!
MBethany, WOW! I had no idea. Thanks for sharing and encouraging me with your words and your prayers. We never know who is watching or paying attention to our walk and witness. That’s why one of my key Scriptures is “Let the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be acceptable in they sight, Oh Lord!” Thank you for blessing me with your encouragement and prayers!
Wow, Michelle. These are powerful insights–and what a profound truth that your friend mentioned to you–that sometimes our pain and suffering is not about us at all–but to grow others in their faith and trust in God. Praying for you and your family during this difficult time. You are so right that we do not serve a cruel God. He is so good, and when the world and the enemy wants us to shake our fists and curse God, we will boldly proclaim: “I will bless the Lord at ALL times…” (ps 34:1) Blessings to you!
Christin, when I’m tempted to feel sorry for myself, I only have to compare myself to Job, or worse, to Jesus, and it shifts my perspective. And then I have to ask, “Lord, what do you want me to learn from this?” He is for us, not against us, and He truly does work all things together for our good! Thanks for stopping by! Because of Him, #HopePrevails!
Poor Job. I always felt so sorry for him, but he came through victorious even as his boils healed. His wife didn’t help any either but that is how life throws things at us at times. Through it all we can praise our Lord for His goodness to us. Thank you for sharing with us here at Tell Me a Story.
Job had it most difficult, to be sure. But God knew that he was righteous and would be found to be full of integrity through it all. Oh to be like him in such adversity. I’m thankful for those who have come before me as an example to follow~
Michelle, I appreciate the truth you’ve shared here. I think you’re right – one way we can steward our trials is by encouraging others who are walking through the fires we’ve already emerged from. Romans 8:28 is a popular verse, but I think verse 29 is equally critical because it gives us more insight into God’s definition of “good,” thus revealing the ultimate good purpose of our trials: being conformed to the image of His Son. Thanks so much for sharing with us at Grace & Truth!
Jennifer, oh how I pray that through my trials I will prove to be conformed more and more to the image of His Son. There is no greater purpose in our adversity than becoming more like Him, for others to see the glory of God!
I have suffered with bi polar for many years. I spend weeks in bed with depression. I pray to the Lord to let me die because I can’t stand it anymore. Either that or take this pain away from me. I get very upset because when I am depressed I don’t even want to see my grandchildren.
My husband left me 8 years ago and I still haven’t got over it. Please help me.
Julie, my heart goes out to you. I know the pain of depression, and I can only imagine how that is made worse by feelings of loss and abandonment. I would encourage you to seek out trusted help whether it be a Christian counselor, pastor, mentor, coach, or trusted friend who can speak life into you during this painful time. My book, “Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression” might also encourage you.
Job is such an inspiration in my own life and should be for all who are in pain and suffering. I am humbled by God’s words that were spoken to Job through the storm. In our lowest and most painful times, we can find hope and solace in the book of Job. I definitely do. Thanks for sharing your pain and being real.
Lizette, I don’t know anyone who wants to go through pain and adversity. But somehow, if our pain can help someone else, it at least seems to give it purpose, and that can make it worthwhile. Just as Job has been an inspiration to you and me and countless others, I pray that one day I may in some small way be able to inspire others through their difficulties, pointing them to the One True God, who sustains us in all our troubles.
Love you Michelle. Blessings Diana
I believe God directed me at the start of the new year to this website! Thank you for the insights and encouragement. We live in central Africa in the midst of many destitute people who suffer in so many ways. I agree that God allows us to suffer so that we can encourage others. The death of our son is one of the ways in which God prepared us to minister to so many others who have lost children, parents, loved ones. Our brokenness was used by Jesus to bring healing to others. May God continue to use you, Michelle, in many lives for His glory!
I remember so well back in 1982 when I had Infectious Hepatitis and was confined to bed for 5 weeks and inside only able to go from the bedroom to the living room and to the dr for regular lab work. I was so weak and in some pain and discomfort. I lay in bed listening to worship music and reading books, the Word of God and crocheting all of my Christmas presents. My desire was that people would see that I trusted the Lord with my life. The dr had said. Go home and rest or you will die. I said yes sir. This message brought back memories of that season of pain and illness. Some days were harder than others but during that time my faith grew because I was immersed in the Word but I was also immersed in love from my hubby and children who cared for me sacrificially and my church family who provided meals daily for 5 weeks. Oh I appreciate what they did so much and I pray they saw my faith and trust and were so encouraged. Thank you for this encouragement through sharing your daily journey through pain and suffering. I love you!!
Michelle, it’s been over a year now that I’ve seen exactly that. Me with several chronic pain & illnesses including Trigeminal Neuralgia. I was talking to Jesus about my head one night then I was reminded of 2 Corinthians 12:9. Then I sang a worship song to him. I told him I don’t know what his purpose of my pain is but I want to reflect him to others.
Thank You so much for sharing with Sweet Tea & Friend’s June link-up.