I’m a recovering perfectionist. I have to say “recovering” because I’m not sure I can let go of that tendency in any way other than perfectly. Even as I try to disentangle myself from those inbred perfectionistic ways, I find myself wondering if I am doing it good enough? Am I good enough? Perfectionism is always rooted in something deeper.
The root cause of perfectionism
Perfectionism is usually rooted in shame and fear. For many, the striving for perfection is an attempt to cover up in some other area. For some, it’s fear of being found “not good enough.” For others, it’s an attempt to secure acceptance or love. For others, it comes from guilt or feeling flawed and unworthy.
For most of my life, I wore the label “perfectionist” with pride. I saw it as a good thing. I saw it as a goal to which all should attempt to obtain. If I was a perfectionist, then perhaps others would equate that with being dependable, reliable, and even desirable.
There came a time in my life when circumstances overtook me, and not only could I not maintain my attempts at perfection, but I was unable to do very little at all, certainly not at such a high standard. I was devastated. I didn’t know how to accept imperfection from myself.
If I couldn’t accept an imperfect me, I reasoned surely others wouldn’t either. Sadly, some didn’t.
I am perfect in God’s eyes
The good news is, God accepts me and all my imperfections. I am not perfect, but when he looks at me, He sees the perfection of His son, Jesus Christ. He sees me not as I am, but as I am becoming. Becoming more like Him.
Furthermore, while I am still learning, I am grateful that God’s word says we already have everything we need for life and godliness.
“By his divine power, God has given us everything we need for living a godly life. We have received all of this by coming to know him, the one who called us to himself by means of his marvelous glory and excellence.” (2 Peter 1:3 NLT)
Have you ever felt as if you weren’t good enough? Can you begin to see yourself as God sees you?
Even in times of crisis, every day can be a good day when you trust the promises of God.
Today is Going to be a Good Day
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When life conspires to drag us down with all of its troubles, it can be hard to keep our spirits up. In times of severe illness and depression, I learned that when I stand on God’s promises, despite my circumstances, every day can be a good day.
Each reading includes Scripture, reflection, prayer, and a recommended playlist song designed to help you live out Philippians 4:8: “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.”
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