Are you looking for a few creative ideas to fan the flame on love? Showing appreciation to your spouse is key to unlocking romance. If you long to keep the spark and sizzle in your love life, Pam Farrel shares 20 ways to tangibly express appreciation and gratitude to your spouse.
I had the opportunity to talk with Pam Farrel, author of many books including Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti and Red Hot Monogamy on an episode of Your Hope-Filled Perspective Podcast called How to Love Well in Marriage and Life – Episode 148. If you’ve ever struggled in marriage or have friends or loved ones who struggle or maybe you just want to learn better how to love-wise, you’ll want to tune in to the replay of this episode.
Appreciation: The Key to Unlocking Romance
By Pam Farrel
In our book, Red Hot Romance Tips for Women, we look at the 26 traits, A to Z, that make a wife more desirable to her husband. Because you are a wife who values love, or recognizes the significance of your man, you are looking for a few more creative ideas to fan the flame on love. You long to keep that spark and sizzle in your love life! In your heart is a desire to help your man feel like the luckiest, most blessed male on the face of the globe because he had the good sense to marry YOU!
You have a deep down desire to be the best wife, the best lover, the best friend for life, that a husband could ever discover. And you are among the elite because you take the time to SHOW you care and SAY you love your guy. Set aside the next 26 days and become a more loving wife and see if your change of heart sparks romance!
One of the basic components of a strong love is when a man feels appreciated, valued and esteemed. I (Pam) love the look in the eyes of those newlywed brides. They beam as they hang on the arm of their groom. That gleam in the eye and broad smile—that is appreciation! When he senses you feel you won the grand prize when you married him, his heart will definitely be drawn toward you and then your worth is like the upward trajectory of a positive stock market report—you become priceless!
The Bible encourages, “ . . .esteem them very highly in love . . .” (1 Thessalonians 5:13.) Esteem means to regard as particularly important; admire, approve, favor, treasure. Is that how you feel about your husband?
As a motivated wife, you have the honor of being the spark plug for your marriage, the igniter of romance and the match to light the flame of sex and intimacy.
20 Ways to Show Appreciation to your Man
Start with a little appreciation to fan the flame on love! Say thanks! Choose one of the ways below to tangibly express your gratitude to your man:
- Admire in a letter or with your verbal praise one of his good qualities
- Applaud his effort or an accomplishment
- Approve of his choice (of anything) heartily!
- Commend of him in front of his friends or colleagues
- Compliment one of his handsome features
- Positively inquire more information about one of his interests
- Accept one of his quirks with a quick hug or kiss when you see it
- Laud an accomplishment with a gift or a family party to celebrate.
- Warm toward an idea he has brought up by asking to learn more.
- Support one of his dreams by placing a photo of him doing it on your desk or refrigerator.
- Sympathize with an emotional hurt with a hug.
- Adore his body in the bedroom.
- Enthusiastically embrace one of his opinions with an “I so agree!”
- Show pleasure of his company with a “So nice to have you in my life”.
- Be sensitive to his stress by giving a shoulder or neck rub.
- Be mindful of one of his needs by running an errand or picking up an item without being asked.
- If you are ready- be responsive to one of advances for “red hot monogamy”.
- Order a coffee mug with “I thank God 4 U!” printed on it, then bring him breakfast in bed, complete with the coffee mug.
- Place a thank you note on a helium balloon and float it into his office.
- Make your own list, A to Z, why you are thankful for your man, then read it to him; give it to him, one letter at a time; create a photo book with pictures of him for each letter and each trait you find attractive; or write the list on the same kind of paper you sent the first love note on!
We’d love to hear ideas you have for how to show your spouse appreciation in the comments below. What are your favorite ways to express or receive appreciation?
About Pam Farrel
Pam and Bill Farrel have been happily married for 40 years, are international speakers, authors of over 52 books including best-selling Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti, 10 Best Decisions a Couple Can Make, Red Hot Monogamy, 10 Best Decisions a Parent Can Make, Red Hot Romance Tips for Women and their newest: The Marriage Meet Up: A Planner for Couples Who Want a Productive, Passionate and Purposeful Life.
They are the Co-Directors of Love-Wise, and enjoy time with their three grown sons, 3 daughters in law, and 5 grandchildren. When they are not traveling for speaking, you will find them enjoying the beach, or on the ocean in their live aboard boat docked in Southern California. www.Love-Wise.com
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This blog just carries on the amazing tips that Pam shared last week in the podcast. I loved the podcast.I was able to share it with two dear friends who both struggle in their marriage and they were so appreciative. I learned too, even after 52 years of marriage, so many neat ways to show my sweetheart how much I love him. I tell him all the time to encourage him in our older years that he is still very precious to me, very special and will always be the man I love. I would love either of your books. I know they will so helpful and if Father tells me, I will share them with those in need of learning how to love their husband or wife well.. I will be sharing this blog on FB and personally with others. Thanks to you, Dr. Michelle and Pam for sharing so openly with us.
I’m going to try A-Z! Thanks for the suggestion and I know we’ll both be blessed✝️❤️
I tuck little notes of “thank you for _____” or just Bible verses to encourage in his lunchbox.?
Oh, shared to FB!
Thanks so much Pam!
What a great idea, Pam.
I loved this article with the timely tips on becoming a wife who upholds her husband and finds joy in being together. Thank you for such practical tips.
Very true Dr Michelle. Thanks for finding time to put all these together. They are obvious secret to a successful marriage. Bible also stresses the point that a wise woman builds her home. This however, requires a lot of sacrifices and dedications, and on daily basis. How l wish that many men are also equipped in this way. It would make the building easier and stronger.
Hi Ladies, I’ve learned to keep my mouth shut when I ask my husband to do something for me, and it not quite the way I would have done it. And I make sure I complement for taking the time out to do it.
Always remember to pray for your mate daily and to thank God for the blessing of your husband. Always thank your husband for even the little things, and go out of your way to do little things for him daily.
Great suggestions Rosemary! All very important to remember.
Thanks for stopping by. I hope we see you again soon.
Pam, Michelle, I absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE this!!! Thank you so much for these excellent reminders!
Pinned, tweeted and will share to the IE Facebook page.
Thanks for linking up at InstaEncouragements!
Thanks so much Patsy. I pray they bless many.
Great reminders. I know my man wants me to willingly and happily spend time with him.
I think this is so true of many of our men. We as women tend to have to do lists a mile long, but our men deserve to be at the top.
I’m remarried for almost 13 years after suicide loss of 1st husband. Because he’s aworkaholic..I’m alone most of the time . I’ve read thru the list and I’ll be trying a few .
I pray they encourage you. Pam lives out what she preaches.
Speak words of affirmation daily. We live in an often harsh world, caring words of support and prayer CAN change your environment. AND, your Marriage. Praying and believing WITH you! ??
Oh yes, Pamela. I agree with you that our words have power…the power of life and death. Words of affirmation are so very important and life changing. Thank you for stopping by!