Dear Dr B,

I’m struggling with my calling. I just don’t feel good at anything. When I look around it seems like all my friends and coworkers know what God has called them to do and they are walking confidently in that calling. I just want God to show me if I have any gifts or talents He can use. How do I know what my calling is?

Troubled About My Call


Dear Called,

You’re not alone. I have been right where you are before, and so have those friends and coworkers you referred to, who now look like they are walking confidently in their calling.

We all struggle with direction sometimes. Can I suggest that you just take time to be still. The enemy pushes, but the Holy Spirit guides. God is never in a hurry, but always right on time. When we feel like we have to know, have to “do” right away, that’s when we can miss the joy in the intimate journey He takes us through as He leads us to our calling. He has a plan for you and He declares that it is GOOD! It is a future filled with HOPE. Do not despair. He has called you and you are His own. Wait on Him. Be still. Rest in Him. As you take time to be still, God will renew and guide your vision.

You are created for a purpose that God planned in advance for you to do. “I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb. Before you were born I set you apart and appointed you as my prophet to the nations” (Jeremiah 1:5).

I think so often we get it wrong. God’s greatest desire isn’t that we would figure out what His will is for our lives and then run after that. What He really desires is that we will draw close to Him and get to know Him in intimate relationship, and as an outcome from that intimate relationship, we will walk with Him in our purpose and calling.

The enemy often likes to use comparison with others to distract and discourage us. When we listen to his taunts and jeers, it takes our focus off of God, when what we need to do is rest in God for He will make our paths straight.

“Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for Him” (Psalm 37:7).

We tend to have difficulty resting when we look at the million things we have to do to make “it” happen, when much of the time we remain unsure of what “it” even is.

Sometimes the most “productive” times are the times when we are still and rest; times when we ignore the push of the world to do, and instead, heed His call to be still. He didn’t create us to be “human doings” but rather “human beings.”

The truth is, He doesn’t need us to do anything for Him to accomplish His purposes but what He does need us for is relationship with Him. He doesn’t want us so busy about our call that we miss out on the relationship journey with Him. That comes in the resting and the listening and the seeking and the knocking and the slowing down and being still. We are the ones who think we have so much to do and in such a hurry, but in God’s economy, He has all of eternity to accomplish His purposes.

Sometimes when you aren’t sure what to do, the best thing to do is to be faithful to what you already know God wants you to do. Small acts of obedience put us in line for God’s big plans.

Rest assured, “I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns” (Philippians 1:6 NLT).


When you aren't sure what to do be faithful to what you already know God wants you to do.


Because of Him,
Hope Prevails!


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