Dear Dr. B,
Something weird happens in the days leading up to my husband’s return from deployment either for good or R&R… I find myself doing some weird, completely unnecessary things. Like cleaning out and organizing my closet when I should be getting my kids out the door for school. I’m also often unable to make logical decisions. Easy ones, like what’s for dinner. There’s got to be a good explanation. Is there?
Confused but Well-Intended
YES, there is a logical explanation of it but you may not like it. Everything you are describing is rooted in fear. Fear is based on a concern about lack of control.
When we are faced with a big event, even a good one like a husband coming home from deployment (either permanently or for R&R), it represents a significant change from routine, and a potential lack of control for you (no longer being in control of your usual schedule, routine, surroundings, etc.) That concern regarding lack of control breeds fear.
God’s word says He has not given us a spirit of fear but of power love and sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7). But we often let the spirit of fear in when we take our eyes off Him, and when we do that, we lose the power, love, and sound mind, so you can’t make logical decisions. You can’t serve both kingdoms at once. Choose this day whom you will serve…(Joshua 24:15).
Your cleaning out and organizing is your way of trying to regain control in whatever way you can because that helps keep anxiety at bay. But really, He desires for you to keep your peace, trust Him, and keep the power, love, and sound mind that is already within you.
You CAN do this! Next time you hear those whispers of fear, tell them to shut up! Those are not your thoughts. Instead, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things” (Philippians 4:8).
Because of Him,
(If you have a question you’d like Dr. B to answer, contact her here now. Your name and identity will be kept confidential.)
A short brief about Hope Prevails.
Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey through Depression
Dr. Michelle Bengtson
Speaking from personal and professional experience, a neuropsychologist unpacks what depression is, shows how it affects us spiritually, and offers hope for living the abundant life.
Neuropsychologist Offers Hope to Those Struggling with Depression
-By 2020, depression will be our greatest epidemic worldwide
- An estimated 350 million people worldwide suffer from some form of depression
- Helpful features include personal stories, biblical truths, prayers, and music recommendations
In Hope Prevails, Dr. Bengtson writes with deep compassion and empathy, blending her extensive training and faith, to offer readers a hope that is grounded in God’s love and grace. She helps readers understand what depression is, how it affects them spiritually, and what, by God’s grace, it cannot do. The result is a treatment plan that addresses the whole person—not just chemical imbalances in the brain.
For those who struggle with depression and those that want to help them, Hope Prevails offers real hope for the future.
Hope Prevails is available now wherever books are sold. To find out more, see: https://drmichellebengtson.com/hope-prevails-book/.