Domestic abuse is the most misunderstood yet silenced epidemic of our time in our churches and in society. The numbers are mind-boggling. 35% of women at some point in their lives experience stalking, rape, and/or physical abuse, and nearly half experience coercive control and/or emotional and verbal abuse. Those numbers are astounding. And they are no different in the church. We all know someone whose life has been turned upside down by domestic abuse. On today’s episode, Charlene Quint and I talk about recognizing, removing, and recovering from domestic abuse in a “Christian” marriage.
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Quotables from the Episode:
- In its simplest form, abuse is any behavior that is used to gain and maintain power over another.
- Domestic abusers tend to have a lack of empathy, a grandiose sense of self, pride, and a lack of remorse.
- Cheap grace is grace that is extended without true repentance.
- The #1 reason people stay in abusive relationships is fear regarding a lack of financial resources.
- Every relationship with an abuser will end badly.
- If you’ve been in an abusive relationship, be gentle with yourself, heal, restore, and live intentionally.
- If God has removed someone from your life, you don’t need them.
- 2 Timothy 3:2-5 NLT “For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. They will consider nothing sacred. They will be unloving and unforgiving; they will slander others and have no self-control. They will be cruel and hate what is good. They will betray their friends, be reckless, be puffed up with pride, and love pleasure rather than God. They will act religious, but they will reject the power that could make them godly. Stay away from people like that!”
- Genesis 50:20 NLT “You intended to harm be, but God intended it all for good. He brought me to this position so I could save the lives of many people.”
Recommended Resources: (If there are affiliate links in this post, meaning, if you click through and make a purchase, I may receive a commission (at no extra cost to you)).
- www.domesticshelters.org is a clearinghouse for resources.
- Overcoming the Narcissist, Sociopath, Psychopath, and Other Domestic Abusers by Charlene Quint
- Hope for Healing from Domestic Abuse: Reaching for God’s Promise of Real Freedom by Karen DeArmond Gardner
- Leaving an Abusive Marriage Isn’t the End
- When Healing after Domestic Abuse, God will Meet You – Episode 120
- Have You Done Enough? When to Leave an Abusive Relationship
- Hope for Healing from Domestic Abuse – Episode 119
- 5 Things You Need to Know About Domestic Violence
- Hope for Healing from Physical and Domestic Abuse – Episode 16
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Charlene Quint is a family law attorney in the Chicago area who focuses her practice on helping women overcome domestic abuse. She wrote Overcoming the Narcissist, Sociopath, Psychopath, and Other Domestic Abusers to help victims of domestic abuse become the fearless victors that God designed them to be. She is the founder of AbuseCare.org, a nondenominational faith-based organization designed to provide hope and healing to women in their journey from victim to victorious and to educate and equip churches in caring for victims of domestic abuse. Quint is co-chair of the Partnership for a Safer Lake County, a network of organizations combating all forms of abuse. She is a Certified Domestic Violence Professional, an advocate for victims of abuse, a facilitator of multiple support groups, and a domestic abuse survivor. She speaks publicly to raise awareness of domestic abuse and provides training for churches on how to address abuse in the church.
Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson
Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson