In life, we often encounter moments of great pain and suffering that can leave us feeling lost and hopeless. However, let’s remember that “no pain is wasted.” These hardships, no matter how difficult, can serve a purpose and lead to transformation and growth. Even in our darkest moments, there is a glimmer of hope and a chance for our pain to be used for something greater.

It had been weeks that I had been despairing deep within. I looked at my surroundings and nothing was changing. All I could see were the same four walls. Yet it seemed they were closing in. On bed-rest, attached to IV’s, and in continuous pain, nothing about me resembled my usual self.

My strength was failing. Sorrow was all I could taste. Hope was more than I could bear. I didn’t know what the next day would bring, but I couldn’t stand more of the same.

Finding purpose in pain

Every tear shed, every moment of agony endured, I held onto the belief that no pain is wasted in the hands of a compassionate and loving God.

In the midst of my suffering, I clung to the hope that even the darkest moments have a purpose, that God can bring beauty from ashes and use our pain for His greater glory.

There were days that felt like a blur of indistinct activity. I knew hours passed because the sun had risen and set, yet I couldn’t tell you any of the detail in between.

Life went on for everyone else.  They continued with work and school and their families.  Meanwhile, I felt useless, not able to carry on my usual productive routine. I felt like I had failed…myself, my family, even God. So much for the Super Woman exterior I always tried to portray.

Others said they were thinking of me. That they were praying.

Were they really?

I wasn’t so sure.

I wasn’t feeling any better.

And shamefully, if I was honest with myself, hadn’t I promised to pray for others in the past and then forgotten? I too had told people I was “thinking about” others before, and I had, but what did that mean, really? Now I really wondered. Really.

Sharing sorrow with those in pain

We are encouraged in scripture, “When others are happy, be happy with them. If they are sad, share their sorrow.” (Romans 12:15)

The sorrow I felt was different from anything I had ever known before. What started as very intense physical, medically-induced pain, led to soul-churning despair. As my physical energy was depleted, so was my emotional reserve.

Friends and family didn’t know how to respond. They were unaccustomed to seeing me in anything other than my driven, take-charge, “can-do” mentality. Instead, they saw a very fragile physical shell, grasping to hold on to the desire to try to find my way back to any likeness of my former self.

But there was one thing I knew that they didn’t. If I was going to fight for my physical and emotional health to return, I didn’t want to be left unchanged. I prayed repeatedly that this torment that I endured would not be wasted and that the Lord would use this experience to draw me closer to Him, AND to help someone else.

No pain is wasted: a test of faith

I am so grateful to God to be able to tell you, He has not left me unchanged. That painful experience changed and challenged me in many ways I couldn’t have expected. It tested my faith and made me seek truth. It made me confront God on some hard issues. It made me put my trust in God and not in people. And even before the IV’s were removed, it gave me a chance to comfort others who were in pain, and really pray for them when I promised I would.

No pain is wasted. God used my pain to help others. And he will use yours in ways you can’t even imagine.

He can use our struggles to shape us into vessels of His grace, instruments of His peace, and transform our deepest hurts into sources of strength and compassion.

To this day, if I tell you I will pray for you, I will–not just once, or twice, but every time I think of you, or the Lord puts you on my heart, or until you tell me you have seen an answer to your situation. Because I know how important it is to be happy with those who are happy, and to share in the sorrow of those who are in pain!

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

Is there someone you can be that friend to today?

Are you the one in need of a comforting friend today?

Will you allow me to pray for you?

Father, I  know what it feels like to be in the depths of despair and to feel alone. I pray for this dear one who is in need of the comfort of a friend.  Will you please provide for his/her needs today.  Will you provide a friend to walk this journey with him/her? In the meantime, you have sent the ultimate comforter in the form of the Holy Spirit. Go into the depths of their despair with your soothing balm, and give your peace that truly passes all understanding.  I thank you for meeting our needs even now. Let this dear reader know that no pain is wasted. I thank you for meeting our needs even now. Amen.

Hope Prevails,
Dr. B



The Hem of His Garment

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We all experience pain from time to time, and not just physical pain, but also emotional pain, relational pain, spiritual pain, grief and loss.

I’ve been there. I’ve experienced each one of those types of pain. I’ve asked the hard questions. I’ve searched the scriptures for biblical examples and lessons learned through pain and suffering. And I’m sharing a fresh perspective in my new book “The Hem of His Garment: Reaching Out to God When Pain Overwhelms.”

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Experiencing deep pain can feel like an endless tunnel of despair. Yet, within this darkness lies the potential for incredible personal growth and transformation. Learn how enduring hardships can lead to unexpected strength and resilience, proving that no pain is truly wasted.