I recently had the opportunity to talk with former runway model, Jennifer Strickland on an episode of Your Hope-Filled Perspective. If you missed it, you can listen to it here (Former Model Shares: the Myth of Perfection – Episode 63). So many people struggle with their self-image and the tendency to compare themselves and their bodies to others rather than living in the truth of their identity in Christ. So I asked Jennifer to share more here about the one thing a girl with self-image issues must do to find help, hope, and healing.
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The One Thing a Girl with Self-Image Issues Must Do
by Jennifer Strickland
To tell a girl she is beautiful or worthy isn’t enough. She’s got to believe it deep down in her bones. And for her to believe it at the core level, she’s got to make an agreement with the truth. You can preach truth to someone all day long, but if they’ve made an agreement with a lie, your words will fall on deaf ears.
I turned my life around as a result of a bipartisan agreement. The God of heaven and earth reached for me, and I reached back.
I made a choice.
When we’ve made an agreement with a lie — “I will never be enough,” for example —we keep attracting people and circumstances to confirm that lie.
Everything becomes a confirmation until that lie becomes our truth. So it is with girls with image issues. Their identity is based on a lie — “I am not loved. I am not worthy. I am not beautiful. I am not perfect enough as I am…”
These lies often become planted in childhood and are tough to uproot.
To break the grip of these lies on us, we first have to admit we’ve believed — and therefore based our sense of self — on a lie, and then take hold of the truth of who we truly are in God’s eyes.
Here are some examples, and how they impact the way we live:
I belong. I am valuable. I am loved — and everything in my life can be filtered through these truths.
I am loved —
So I am worthy of counseling, because that will help me be the best version of myself.
I am beautiful —
So I will take care of my body daily with proper diet and exercise. If I am not well, I will reach out to mentors, friends, family, and doctors who will become a circle of care for me.
I am holy —
So I will dress myself with dignity and worth and guard myself from sexual indiscretions which could hurt me in the long run.
I am light —
So I will shine from the inside out instead of trying to be pretty from the outside in. I will believe my real beauty and power come from the way I love — not the way I look.
I am enough —
Because of what Christ did for me on the cross. I am complete in Him. Forgiven. Worthy. Empowered. Covered. Protected. More than enough. His Word tells me I am a Conqueror.
So, I can and will smash these lies that try to strangle me and come out of agreement with them. I have the power to speak truth over my well-being.
And when I fall, God will help me get back up.
Because I AM His beloved daughter —
I can conquer addiction.
I can conquer anxiety.
I can conquer fear.
I am More.
These statements about our identity get truth down in the bones, and give life to the body and everything in it.
They bring out the best in who we are. It begins with God reaching for us — and us reaching back for Him.
When a girl has issues with her self-image, the problem is rooted in her identity. So, the one thing she must do is reach back for God, which only the Holy Spirit can prompt her to do. And when she reaches, she must confess those lies she’s believed and replace them with how He sees her.
This is what healed me. This is what continues to heal me.
And this is the answer, always.
About Jennifer Strickland
Jennifer Strickland is a former international model, TEDx speaker, author, wife, mother of three, and the founder of a non-profit called U R More, that helps women and girls discover their value, identity, and purpose.
Jen has written seven books and studies teaching women and girls their true worth, including Girl Perfect, More Beautiful Than You Know, Beautiful Lies, and 21 Myths (Even Good) Girls Believe About Sex. She holds a bachelor’s degree in broadcast journalism and a master’s degree in writing with an emphasis in biblical studies.
In her earlier days, Jen worked for 15 years as a professional model, appearing in Vogue, Glamour, and Cosmopolitan. She was featured in ads for Converse Tennis Shoes, Oil of O’lay, Mercedes Benz, Eddie Bauer, and Jordache; and at the height of her career, she walked the runways of Europe for Giorgio Armani and represented Barbie for the 35th anniversary of the doll. But Jen learned beauty is more than what meets the eye when she discovered what she looked like in God’s eyes.
In conjunction with this post and the podcast interview, Former Model Shares: the Myth of Perfection – Episode 63, Jennifer Strickland is giving away a free copy of her book, Girl Perfect.
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