When someone you care about has been diagnosed with cancer, it’s natural to want to jump in and help. When my husband was diagnosed with cancer multiple times, and most recently, when I received a diagnosis, people wanted to know what they could do to help. Even as I walked through it, I had other friends who were also walking a similar road and my husband and I desired to help.
Jesus gave us the commandment, “…Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples” (John 13:34-35). You may be wondering how to support someone with cancer or how to show love to a friend who is going through a difficult trial, like treatment for cancer?
Now I understand. While I’ve always been empathic and cared for my patients, I never really understood, the way I do now…now that I’ve been on the other side of the desk. The doctor, the caregiver, and the patient. After all I’ve been through, I can see that God really will use our pain for our good and His glory.
Focus on the next step. Too often, we look at the mountain before us and that overwhelms us, so we think we can’t do it. Facing an entire mountain is overwhelming, but taking the very next step is not.
Cancer. Nobody likes the word. It makes many cringe. Others run far away. No one has a good connotation of cancer. Tell someone that you or a loved one have been diagnosed with cancer and the conversation immediately stops. People either don’t know what to say, or they trip over themselves saying the wrong thing. In either case, what they really want is to somehow make the conversation less uncomfortable. [more]
It’s that time again. Chemotherapy day. As a caregiver for my husband who has been diagnosed with cancer, it’s a privilege to go with him to his chemotherapy treatments two days in a row every three weeks; to sit by his side, and walk this journey together. But I have a confession to make. [more]