In a world filled with people who are constantly looking for validation and attention, it can be difficult to spot a narcissist. But how can you tell if someone you’re in a relationship with is a narcissist? There are certain red flags that can help you identify a narcissist early on. On a recent episode of Your Hope-Filled Perspective Podcast, I chatted with Aliene Thompson about how to spot the narcissist in your life. Narcissists bring havoc into every relationship they are in. That’s why I wanted to give you tips on how to spot a narcissist early on in a relationship.

In today’s world, it’s easy to get caught up in the quest for self-adulation and admiration. With social media platforms like Instagram and Facebook, we are constantly bombarded with images and messages that promote the idea that we need to put our best foot forward and project an image of success and perfection. It’s no wonder that so many of us are susceptible to falling prey to the charms of a narcissistic personality.

What is Narcissism?

Narcissism is a personality disorder that is characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a need for excessive attention and admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, you may find yourself feeling devalued, invisible, and even worthless. People with narcissism often have a sense of entitlement and require constant validation and approval. They may be preoccupied with power, success, and appearance. Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder that is diagnosed more often in men than women. But it’s important to realize than many people may have narcissistic traits or tendencies even if they don’t meet diagnostic criteria for a narcissistic personality disorder.

While it’s not always easy to spot a narcissist early on, there are some telltale signs that you can look out for. If you’re wondering whether or not your partner may be a narcissist, here are a few things to look out for:

Are All Narcissists Men?

Narcissism is often associated with men, but is it really only a male trait?

Narcissism is defined as having an inflated sense of self-importance, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy. It’s a personality disorder that’s characterized by grandiose behavior, a sense of entitlement, and a preoccupation with power and success. Narcissists are often described as egotistical, self-centered, and arrogant.

While it’s true that most diagnosed narcissists are men, it’s important to remember that narcissism is a personality disorder that can affect anyone, regardless of gender. While there are more male narcissists than female narcissists, that doesn’t mean that all narcissists are men.

Are There Different Types of Narcissism?

There are two different types of narcissism: grandiose narcissism and vulnerable narcissism. Grandiose narcissists are the type of narcissists that most people think of when they think of narcissism. They’re the ones who are always trying to be the center of attention and who love to talk about themselves. Vulnerable narcissists, on the other hand, are the type of narcissists who are more prone to feeling insecure and anxious. They’re the ones who are always seeking validation and who are very sensitive to criticism.

Does Abuse by a Narcissist Only Occur in Marriage Settings?

While it is true that narcissists are more likely to be abusers in marriage settings, it is important to note that this is not the only setting in which abuse by a narcissist can occur. Any relationship in which a narcissist is involved has the potential for abuse, whether it be a romantic relationship, a platonic friendship, or even a parent-child relationship. If you suspect that you are being abused by a narcissist, it is important to reach out to a trusted friend or family member for support, and to seek professional help if necessary.

How Frequently are Women the Target of Domestic Abuse?

It is estimated that one in three women will experience domestic abuse in their lifetime. This means that women are the target of domestic abuse more frequently than men. This equates to approximately 1.6 million women between the ages of 16-74 in the United States alone. Domestic abuse can take many forms, including physical, emotional, sexual, and financial abuse.

Women may stay in abusive relationships for a variety of reasons, including fear, shame, and financial dependence. Leaving an abusive partner can be very dangerous, and even deadly. If you are in an abusive relationship, please seek help from a domestic violence hotline or shelter.

Narcissism has become a pop psychology term that’s being thrown around and shared all over social media. So let’s break it down.

What’s the difference between domestic abuse and narcissistic abuse?

There’s a big difference between domestic abuse and narcissistic abuse. Domestic abuse is when one person in a relationship controls and dominates the other person through fear and violence. Narcissistic abuse is when one person in a relationship controls and dominates the other person through manipulation and emotional abuse. Narcissistic abuse is often more subtle and insidious than domestic abuse, and can be more difficult to identify and escape from.

What’s the impact and effect of narcissism on intimate partner relationships?

The impact of narcissism on intimate partner relationships is far-reaching and profound. Narcissism is a personality disorder characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a need for constant admiration and attention, and a lack of empathy for others. Individuals with this disorder can be extremely difficult to be in a relationship with and often create a great deal of chaos and destruction in their wake.

Individuals with narcissism often lack empathy and consideration for their partner’s feelings and needs, and can be excessively demanding and critical. They may also be prone to infidelity and emotional or physical abuse.

The abused often begins to question themselves and everything they thought to be true. They often experience guilt, shame, and loss of self-esteem. They often then doubt their worth and devalue themselves because they have been devalued by their partner. If you are in a relationship with someone with this disorder, it is important to seek professional help to deal with the challenges that you will face.

We often think of domestic abuse in terms of physical violence. But emotional abuse can be harder to spot.

What does emotional abuse look like?

Abusive behavior in a relationship isn’t always physical. Just because you’re not being hit, doesn’t mean you’re not being abused. Emotional abuse is a real and serious problem in many relationships.

What is emotional abuse? It’s defined as a pattern of behavior that can include manipulation, put-downs, intimidation, and isolation. An emotionally abusive relationship can be just as damaging as a physically abusive one.

Emotional abuse can be hard to spot because it often happens in private. It can be hard to identify because the abuser may try to make you think it’s your own fault, or that you’re being too sensitive. But it’s important to recognize emotional abuse for what it is—a serious problem that can have lasting effects.

If you’re not sure whether you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship, here are some signs to look for:

  • Your partner regularly calls you names, puts you down or criticizes you.
  • Your partner humiliates you.
  • Your partner is extremely jealous or possessive or damages your things.
  • Your partner threatens you.
  • Your partner tries to control what you do, who you see, or where you go.
  • Your partner tries to control your emotions, blames you, or tries to make you feel guilty.
  • Your partner bullies you, threatens you, or tries to scare you.
  • Your partner belittles or tells you that you’re nothing without them.
  • Your partner tries to isolate you from your friends or family or other sources of support.
  • Your partner is physically abusive.

If you’re experiencing any of these things, it’s important to reach out for help. There are many resources available to help you if you’re in an abusive relationship. You don’t have to suffer in silence.

12 tips for how to spot a narcissist early

What Are the Traits of a Narcissist?

Narcissism is on the rise. According to a recent study, 1 in 40 adults in the United States are diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder. And with the rise of social media, it’s become even easier for narcissists to get the validation they crave.

Narcissism is a personality disorder that is characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a need for excessive attention and admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. People with this disorder often believe they are superior to others and have a strong sense of entitlement. They may take advantage of others to get what they want and may use others to boost their own ego. Narcissists can be difficult to spot, but there are some warning signs that you should be aware of:

  1. They love to talk about themselves. A narcissist will often talk about themselves in an attempt to make themselves look good.
  2. They are always the center of attention. Narcissists need to be the center of attention and will do whatever it takes to make sure they are always the center of attention. They may hog conversations, interrupt others, or make grandiose statements to make sure they are always the center of attention.
  3. They are always seeking validation. A narcissist will often seek validation from others, whether it be through compliments or attention.
  4. They can be controlling and manipulative. Narcissists are skilled manipulators and may use others to get what they want. They may use flattery, charm, or manipulation to get others to do things for them or to get what they want. A narcissist may try to control others through manipulation or other means.
  5. They lack empathy. Narcissists are incapable of empathy and do not consider the feelings or needs of others. Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. It is a fundamental human quality that allows us to feel compassion for others. Narcissists, on the other hand, are largely incapable of empathizing with others.
    Narcissists are notoriously insensitive to the feelings of others. They’re unable to see things from another person’s perspective and often lack compassion. This lack of empathy makes them insensitive to the needs and feelings of others. It also makes them unable to understand how their actions might impact others. As a result, narcissists often end up hurting the people around them, both emotionally and physically.
  6. They can be jealous. Narcissists are jealous of your success, your relationships, and your life. They are envious of the attention you receive and the love you are given. Narcissists want what you have and will go to great lengths to take it from you. They are threatened by your happiness and will do everything they can to destroy it.
  7. They can be dismissive. A narcissist may dismiss their partner’s feelings or opinions. Narcissists are dismissive of anything that doesn’t fit into their worldview. If you’re not adoring them, they’re not interested. If you don’t share their beliefs, they’ll write you off as ignorant. If you don’t cater to their every whim, they’ll dismiss you as unimportant. Narcissists only want people in their lives who will reflect their own greatness back to them. So if you’re not doing that, you’re not worth their time.
  8. They’re excessively critical and are always competing. Narcissists are quick to point out the flaws of others but are unwilling to accept criticism themselves. They’re also quick to judge and are rarely satisfied with anything. They may belittle or put others down in order to make themselves feel superior. Narcissists are competitive by nature. They need to be the best at everything they do and are always looking for ways to one-up others.
  9. They have a sense of entitlement. Narcissists believe they are entitled to special treatment and always expect others to cater to their needs. They may take advantage of others, or expect others to do things for them that they are not willing to do for themselves. Narcissists believe they’re entitled to the best of everything. They expect special treatment and often take advantage of others to get what they want.
  10. They Don’t Take Responsibility. A narcissist often blames their lack of experience, or lack of self-awareness, or their naivety or ignorance for their inappropriate behavior, but never accept personal responsibility. If you confront them, they shift all the blame to you. They take all the credit for the good and take none of the blame for the bad. Furthermore, they use the severest form of judgment on others while demanding the strongest form of grace from others (they want all the mercy but give none).
  11. They’re always right. Narcissists hate to be wrong. Narcissists always think they are right. If you try to tell them they are wrong, they will get defensive and try to convince you that you are wrong. They will use any means necessary to make sure that you believe them. This can be extremely frustrating, especially if you are trying to have a rational conversation with them. They’ll go to great lengths to prove that they’re right, even if it means lying or manipulating the facts.
  12. They Cause You to Second Guess Yourself. When you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, it can often feel like you’re walking on eggshells. You’re always trying to second-guess yourself and wondering if you’re doing something wrong. And even when you’re confident that you’re not, the narcissist will find a way to make you question yourself.

What is Gaslighting?

It’s a common tactic used by narcissists to control their partners. And it’s effective because it works to undermine your confidence and make you doubt your own perceptions and reality.

If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, you might feel like you’re always being put down, or that your opinions and feelings don’t matter. The narcissist will often try to make you feel like you’re wrong, or that you’re not good enough. And if you challenge them, they’ll find a way to make you doubt yourself.

It’s important to remember that you’re not crazy, and that you’re not imagining things. Gaslighting is a real phenomenon, and it’s a form of emotional abuse. This is when they try to make you question your own reality and memory. For example, they might tell you that you said something that you didn’t say, or they might deny ever saying something that they did say. This can be very confusing and can make you doubt yourself. If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, it is important to remember that you are not crazy, and that you are not the one who is wrong. If you’re being gaslighted, it’s not your fault, and you’re not responsible for fixing the problem. The only person who can change the narcissist’s behavior is the narcissist themselves.

If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, there are a few things you can do to protect yourself from their gaslighting tactics.

First, it’s important to be aware of what’s going on. If you can recognize the signs of gaslighting, it’ll be easier to stand up for yourself and defend your reality.

Second, it’s important to build a support system of friends and family members who you can rely on to tell you the truth. These people can help you to see the reality of your situation, and they can provide a reality check when you’re being gaslighted.

Third, it’s important to set clear boundaries with them. Narcissists often try to take advantage of people who are unclear about their boundaries. It’s important to be clear about what you will and will not tolerate from the narcissist. Make a list of your boundaries and be prepared to stick to them. Furthermore, be assertive. Narcissists often try to steamroll over people who are passive. It’s important to be assertive when setting boundaries with a narcissist. This means being firm and confident in your communication. State your boundaries clearly and firmly, and don’t back down if the narcissist tries to push you. Be prepared for pushback. Narcissists often react negatively when they encounter boundaries. They may try to convince you to change your boundaries or may become angry and aggressive. It’s important to be prepared for this type of reaction and to stand your ground.

How does the Biblical picture of love compare to love from a narcissist?

We read in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a “Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.”

When we truly love others, out of the love God has given to us, we extend the best of who we are and believe the best in others. We offer compassion, kindness, forgiveness, and sacrifice. But a narcissist typically exemplifies all the things in that passage that we are told NOT to do. They are motivated by selfish ambition, whereas we are told to do nothing out of selfish ambition, loving others as we love ourselves. The narcissist on the other hand demands love but is generally unwilling to extend that kind of love.

Can a Narcissist Control Their Behavior?

At the root of narcissism are the spirits of pride, arrogance, rebellion, manipulation, control, and deceit. Narcissistic individuals can control their behavior but have no motivation to because they get what they want through their behavior so their needs are met. Narcissistic personality disorder is a very difficult clinical diagnosis to treat because those with NPD don’t think there is anything wrong with them so they have no motivation to participate in therapy, accept professional advice, or change.


Narcissists are often very charming and charismatic at first glance, but there are usually some warning signs that can help you spot them early on. They tend to be very self-centered and have difficulty empathizing with others, and they may try to control or manipulate those around them. If you suspect that someone you know may be a narcissist, it’s important to pay attention to how they interact with others and to their overall behavior. If you’re concerned about someone’s behavior, it’s always best to talk to a professional to get their opinion.

If you think you might be in a relationship with a narcissist, it’s important to be aware of these signs so you can make a decision about whether or not to stay in the relationship. If you’re in a relationship with someone who exhibits these qualities, it’s important to get help (Text START to 88788 or contact Narcissistic personality disorder is a serious mental illness that can be extremely destructive to both the narcissist and those around them.




What is narcissism? Are all narcissists men? What’s the difference between narcissistic abuse and domestic abuse? In this article, I share answers to these questions as well as tips that will help you spot a narcissist early. If you think you may be in a relationship with a narcissist, be sure to read more.