Sadly, there’s a long-lasting myth that children and teens are immune to depression. The truth is, no one is immune to depression. As a Christian mental health professional, I went through the valley of depression and crossed to the other side to share my story in the best-selling book Hope Prevails: Insights From a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression and the Hope Prevails Bible Study. In recent posts, we discussed how depression presents in childhood and teens with understanding depression in children and depression in teens. Now that we’ve discussed depression in childhood and teens, we need to talk about the very important topic of suicide risk in children and teens—a conversation that may save lives.
Depression always carries with it a high risk of suicide. Sometimes people will have a tendency to think that those who talk about suicide are just trying to get attention, but anyone who expresses suicidal thoughts should be taken seriously. Never assume it’s “just an attention-getting measure”—that could be a mistake that costs someone their life.
Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the United States for all ages. There is one death by suicide in the United States every 13 minutes. There is one death by suicide for every estimated 25 suicide attempts. Adolescent suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death, following accidents, among youth and young adults in the United States. It is estimated that 500,000 teens attempt suicide annually, with at least 5,000 dying by suicide each year. Suicide is an act of desperation and teen depression is often the root cause, so it is imperative that you seek help if you suspect your child may be depressed.
One in 100,000 children ages 10-14 die by suicide each year. Seven in 100,000 youth ages 15-19 die by suicide each year while 12.7 in 100,000 young adults ages 20-24 die by suicide each year. Suicide is the second leading cause of death for 15-24 year old Americans.
From 1950 to 1990, the suicide rate for adolescents in the 15-19 year old group increased by 300%. Adolescent males 15-19 years old had a rate six times greater than the rate for females. One of the most vulnerable groups for completed suicide is 18-24 year olds.
In adolescents, firearms is the leading cause of death by suicide. Ninety percent of teens who kill themselves have some type of mental health problem (depression, anxiety, substance use) or behavior problem. They may also have problems at school, or with friends or family. Some have a history of sexual or physical abuse.
Most teens do not spend a long time planning to kill themselves, rather, it usually occurs after an event that produces feelings of failure or loss.
While this discussion can be frightening, if not alarming, to some adults, there are specific risk factors and warning signs that parents can look for in their children:
Adolescent Suicide Risk Factors
The greatest risk factor for adolescent or childhood suicide is a history of depression while a previous suicide attempt is likely the second greatest risk factor. Not only is a family history of psychiatric disorder a risk factor for depression, but also for potential suicidal consideration. Family disruption is also a suicide risk as is living outside the home without parental support.
Kids who have had a history of physical or sexual abuse, chronic or debilitating physical disorders of psychiatric illness, and/or alcohol use or alcoholism are all suicide risk factors.
Adolescents with psychosocial problems (conflict with parents, relationship breakups, school problems, legal difficulty, social isolation, physical ailments) are also at increased risk for suicide.
Suicide Warning Signs in Children and Teens
The more depressive symptoms your child exhibits, the greater your concern should be. When children and/or teens express hopelessness about their future, or talk as if no one cares about them, or they become more socially isolated, these are all concerning warning signs.
Parents should become more concerned when their child or teen exhibits increased crying OR reduced emotional expression, or if they engage in increased risk-taking behavior, or engage in increased acting-out of undesirable behavior (e.g. behavioral or sexual acting out).
Parents should take note when their child or teen is found to use substances to assist with sleep or for relief from mental or emotional pain. Another warning sign that someone is considering suicide is when they begin to prepare for their own death by doing things such as writing letters or giving away their possessions. When one’s child focuses on morbid or negative themes, talks about death and dying or suicide, or threatens to kill themselves, it’s time to seek professional care.
**If you notice any such behaviors in your teen, seek help from a mental health professional or suicide hotline immediately (see number below.)
Another myth needs to be addressed: Many believe that discussing suicide with their child or teen will make them more likely to attempt suicide. The reality is that talking about their feelings may make them feel less hopeless and sad. Asking them if they ever think about hurting themselves or others will not “put the idea in their head”—chances are they’ve already considered it, and by asking, you are giving them a chance to share in a safe place.
If your child or teen admits to having suicidal ideation, and you don’t have a mental health provider, we will provide the number for the national suicide hotline as a resource.
1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255) or 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433)
I pray that you will fill their mouth with laughter and their lips with shouts of joy! (Joel 8:21)
In previous posts we discussed crucial information about understanding depression in children and depression in teens. Additional important information regarding depression can be found in my award-winning books Hope Prevails: Insights From a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression and the Hope Prevails Bible Study.
I love how you have made this so easy to understand and apply to any family. Parents need these helps if they will read them and learn them so they can make a proper assessment about their children’s mental and emotional condition. I know that so many children, young ones and teens, have been under so much stress since the pandemic and schools going online rather than in-house. Thank you, Dr. Michelle, for sharing all of this to help prevent suicide in children and teens. A blessing for every parent for sure.
It’s my prayer that these posts will help many who need them. God wants so much more for His children!
I just dealt with this last week. It’s not a fun conversation to have, no matter who is involved. But it’s so important to take it seriously.
Heather, I’m so very sorry to hear that this was an issue you recently had to address. You’re right–it’s never a fun conversation to have, but I’m grateful you were able to have that talk. Praying you will know how to proceed.
Thank you, Michelle. Such great information on a topic close to my heart. Sharing.
Maree Dee, thank you for your sweet comments. So glad you stopped by. I know that this is close to your heart, and I’m hoping this series, as hard as it is to discuss, will be a useful resource for many. Blessings to you.