Practical Grace – How to Not Be a Friend to Someone With Cancer (Part 1)

Practical Grace – How to Not Be a Friend to Someone With Cancer (Part 1)

Have you ever wondered what to say or what not to say to someone with cancer? In the three-part Practical Grace series, I’m going to share with you what I’ve learned through my experience as a caregiver for someone with cancer, and through my own personal battle.

No one likes nor wants a diagnosis of cancer. Just the word makes us uncomfortable. Worse, many are uncomfortable around those who have been given the diagnosis. You know people with this diagnosis right now.

In part one, I share how to not be a friend to someone with cancer using actual examples of conversations I’ve witnessed or been a part of.

This article is a continuation of a post made o Facebook in January that clearly demonstrated the need for further discussion.

Caring for the Caregiver

Caring for the Caregiver

I looked up and met his kindly eyes. I had been avoiding them as I sat down, not sure what I would find.

“How are you?”
“Where shall we start?”
“How about the changes since last time.”
“Well, how is it that he lost weight with all the chemotherapy and the same amount of weight he lost, I gained.”
“I noticed.”
“Somehow I didn’t think that’d get by you, but the scales don’t exactly lie do they?”
He didn’t say anything. I think he knew that was a sensitive subject for me.

The Cancer in Each of Us

The Cancer in Each of Us

Cancer. Nobody likes the word. It makes many cringe. Others run far away. No one has a good connotation of cancer. Tell someone that you or a loved one have been diagnosed with cancer and the conversation immediately stops. People either don’t know what to say, or they trip over themselves saying the wrong thing. In either case, what they really want is to somehow make the conversation less uncomfortable. [more]