If you have a friend who has suffered the loss of a loved one, you likely want to know how to help that friend who is experiencing grief. Today, I’d like to introduce you to my friend, Susan Mead, an author, speaker, and chaplain who lost a sister as well as experienced every parent’s worst nightmare in the loss of her teenage son. She knows what helps and what doesn’t help when someone is experiencing grief. Read more for 5 ways to help a grieving friend.
No one anticipates a child dying, but when that happens, we need to know how to help a grieving friend. We need to know what helps and what doesn’t, what we should say and what we shouldn’t. That’s what Susan shares from her own grief experience in episode 3 of Your Hope-Filled Perspective.
Several years ago, my husband and I experienced the devastating loss of a child to miscarriage. Nothing can prepare you for the pain and shock of learning your baby no longer had a heartbeat. The grief-filled experience taught me a few things that I can share to encourage other mothers and parents who are grieving. These 5 encouraging words for mothers who have lost a child will bring comfort.
With the change of seasons upon us, the Lord has had me consider the importance of us going back to our roots. Our roots impact our past, present and future. Returning to our roots helps us understand where we came from, what is valuable and what path to take in the future.
I experienced it in a series of quiet moments. Walking in the front door in the morning and realizing this would not be “my place” much longer, watching the team execute with competence and compassion but realizing that it wouldn’t continue, and doing routine tasks with an unusual enjoyment but also a sense of finality. Michelle and I had made the decision together. The work was good and valuable and productive, but we both knew that the time had come for something new. It was what I had done for the last six or seven years, my professional identity. And it was ending.
Living with a psychologist I knew the symptoms: grief, loss, a temptation to negotiate an alternate ending. This was the end of a major and fulfilling part of life. A small death.