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Do you ever struggle with the “if it’s going to be, it’s up to me” mentality? Do you ever find yourself striving for the approval of others, even God, by trying to do enough, be good enough, accomplish enough?
For many years, that could have been my autobiography. Until I became deathly ill and could suddenly do nothing but exist. During that time, God gently showed me that He didn’t love me because of what I did or didn’t do, but because I was His daughter. That was a life-changer for me!
As a result, I’m thrilled to introduce you to my friend, Katie Reid, who is going to share with you her revelations with respect to this. I know you’ll be blessed!
The Good News about Martha, Your Worth, and Your Work
By Katie M. Reid
The story of Mary and Martha, in Luke 10:38-42, has caused women to feel guilty—for centuries.
“As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!”
“Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”
Since Jesus told Martha that she was worried and distracted and that her sister Mary had chosen what was better, we often feel guilty for being wired like Martha.
We feel like Mary was the poster child for getting it right and that Martha was discounted because she was worried and distracted.
For years, this passage in Luke 10 bothered me. If nobody works, nobody eats, right?
I really wanted Jesus to tell Mary to get up and help her sister out. But upon closer examination, I realized how much Jesus loved Martha and wanted her to know that too. He wasn’t asking her to neglect her responsibilities but to trust Him to care for her.
Jesus loved Martha.
In John 11:5, we see that Jesus loved Martha and her siblings (Mary and Lazarus). His correction to Martha wasn’t a scolding but an invitation to work from a place of freedom instead of fret.
Many of us have tried to shed the skin of our efficiency because we’ve misinterpreted this passage to mean there is something wrong with being made like Martha. But let’s not confuse correction with rejection. Jesus pointed out one thing that Martha needed to improve upon, but He wasn’t criticizing the totality of who she was.
If we are in Christ, our position in His heart is secure. He loves us…even when we are short-fuzed, whether or not we have a quiet time, even in the midst of tackling our to-do lists.
You don’t have to strive for His love—it’s a gift.
In Made Like Martha: Good News for the Woman Who Gets Things Done, we take a closer look at those of us who are doers. Being a doer is a good thing, but some of us “do” in an effort to obtain something that is already ours.
Many of us are trying to earn God’s approval and favor, but we already have that if we are in Christ. Have you, like me, spent much time and energy trying to prove you are worthy of God’s love?
When we realize we don’t have to strive for what is already ours, we walk taller and freer, knowing that our worth is not depended on our productivity but cemented in Christ.
My brother is a few years younger than me; he has Down Syndrome. His worth is not based on how productive he is, nor is mine.
We have worth because God says so, and it’s not based on how many items we check off our list.
Now, our to-do list has value but it does not determine our value. We could never do enough to achieve our salvation. We are saved by grace and not works (see Ephesians 2:8-10).
Goodbye “Hired-help Mentality!”
In Made Like Martha, the hired help mentality is defined. Those with this mentality think it’s all up to them to take care of themselves, like their worth is based on what they do and that they might lose what they have if they aren’t good enough.
But a beloved daughter’s mentality is based on trust; knowing that love is not based on what you do, but based on who you belong to. A beloved daughter knows she is adored even when she messes up.
1 Peter 5:7 in The Message reads, “Live carefree before God because He is most careful with you.”
Some of us have taken on things that were never ours to manage.
In our ultra-responsible mindset we have placed extra weight upon ourselves, bogging us down with worry and exhaustion.
As God teaches us how to live like a daughter instead of a slave (or the hired-help) we begin to cast off the heavy weight we’ve been carrying and place it upon His most capable shoulders.
God has works prepared for us to do—but our position in Him is not dependent on our behavior or performance. Isn’t that such good news?!
About the book
Made Like Martha: Good News for the Woman Who Gets Things Done by Katie M. Reid
An invitation for overachievers to discover what it means to rest as God’s daughters without compromising their God-given design as doers.
Though she didn’t sit at Jesus’s feet like her sister Mary, biblical Martha was loved just as she was–and you are too. This practical resource invites modern-day Marthas to sit down spiritually as they exchange try-hard striving for hope-filled freedom without abandoning their doer’s heart in the process. Doers need to be affirmed in their innate design to do rather than sit, yet also be reminded that they don’t have to overdo it in order to be worthy. This book is not an exhortation to add or subtract things off your to-do list, but it is an invitation to embrace the “good” of the Good News. Here is an offer to step into your position as a daughter of God and to enjoy life as a doer.
About the author
Katie M. Reid encourages others to find grace in the unraveling of life at katiemreid.com. She is a devoted wife, mom to five loud children, and a fan of cut-to-the-chase conversations over iced tea. She is also a speaker and author of Made Like Martha: Good News for the Woman Who Gets Things Done (which includes a bonus 5-week bible study). Subscribe to Katie’s blog for weekly encouragement to help you breathe deeply and walk freely.