Who is Your Best Friend? The answer may surprise you! Discover the secret to identifying your true best friend. Learn to cultivate genuine friendships that uplift and inspire as you explore the beauty of vulnerability, forgiveness, and unconditional love.

My mother always said, “You are blessed if you have one good friend in life.”

As a youngster, who had what I thought were many friends, that didn’t make any sense to me. It always seemed to me that “the more, the better.” You know, like the popular kids.

I was never the “popular girl,” though I longed to be. But neither did I ever want for friends. I was fortunate to have many good friends throughout my life, and several friendships that have spanned decades.

But amidst this abundance of friendships, I often pondered, “Who is truly my best friend?”

Nurturing intentional relationships

Such relationships have varied in intensity, strength, depth, and intentionality. A little like a bulls-eye. I’ve had those friendships that I would characterize more as habitual acquaintances. We’ve learned a little bit about each other, enough to ask about the other when we stumble upon each other in the grocery store or soccer field, maybe even pray for each other.

And then there are those friendships that I’ve nurtured with greater intentionality. We enjoy each other’s company, know each other’s preferences, care about the day to day. We enjoy time together and miss it when time passes without it.

But who among them truly holds the title of “best friend”?

The value of treasured friendships

In the center of the bulls-eye are those treasured friendships who hold a valued piece of your heart. Those are the friends who know your private dreams, successes, and failures, and accept you regardless. They hold up your arms when you lack the strength, like Aaron and Hur did for Moses. Their presence fills you with joy, and their absence is missed greatly, yet when you reunite, it’s like no time passed.

These are the individuals we often refer to as our “best friends.”

Friends lend you strength by their prayers, bless you through their love, and refresh your well-spring of hope through their encouragement.

Qualities of a best friend

But beyond this, the question remains: “Who, among all my friends, is truly my best friend?”

Is it the one who extends mercy, grace, and forgiveness? They recognize you aren’t perfect, won’t be and can’t be, and understand that makes you relatable and true. Such a friend wants to know the genuine you, not the mask that conceals the wrinkles and scars formed by life’s trials and strains.

Is it the one who willingly speaks the truth in love, making you both better for it? Or is it the one who sits with you in your times of struggle, listening without offering advice or platitudes, and drying your tears? Best friends know that sometimes the greatest gift we can offer someone is our presence.

I love this quote by Henri Nouwen:

“When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.” ― Henri J.M. Nouwen, Out of Solitude: Three Meditations on the Christian Life

Aside from God, your very best friend ought to be you.

Becoming your own best friend

If you cannot offer these things to yourself, you won’t be able to authentically offer them to others either. But the enemy of our soul, the accuser of the brethren, works consistently to accuse us to ourselves, others, and to God. He strives to make the case that we aren’t lovable, and in believing him, we struggle to love ourselves, much less believe that God loves us.

But those thoughts you have about how unlovable you are? How much you mess up? How you should be ashamed of yourself? Those thoughts are not even your thoughts. They are offered to you by the father of lies. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, powers, rulers of the darkness of this world and spiritual wickedness in high places.

Extending love to yourself and to others

Instead, when we fully accept and receive God’s love, believing we are all He says we are, we can then love ourselves and love others. It doesn’t matter what others think or have said about you – the only opinion that matters is God’s. He knew you before you were formed in your mother’s womb, He created you perfectly in His image, and He delights in you as the apple of His eye.

Will you receive His love for you today? And in doing so, be that friend to yourself that you always needed and wanted? Then and only then can you be that friend to someone else.



Every day can be a good day when you trust the promises of God.

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Who is your best friend? The answer may surprise you! Discover the secret to identifying your true best friend. Learn to cultivate genuine friendships that uplift and inspire as you explore the beauty of vulnerability, forgiveness, and unconditional love.