Dear Dr. B,

I’ve prayed and prayed to God. Why doesn’t God answer my prayers?

Upset and Unanswered


Dear Unanswered,

I understand your frustration. In my own experiences, I have learned that God answers our prayers, although the answer may not come the way we were expecting or in the timeframe we anticipated. But, in His perfect timing, the answer comes.

If we want Him to answer in a specific way, we limit Him and may not recognize the answer and may interpret the answer we miss as an unanswered prayer.

Scripture is clear that God hears and answers prayer. “He hears the prayer of the righteous.” (Proverbs 15:29 ESV)

In Psalm 65:1-2 NLT, “What mighty praise, O God, belongs to you in Zion. We will fulfill our vows to you, for you answer our prayers.” And, “you faithfully answer our prayers with awesome deeds, O God our savior. You are the hope of everyone on earth,” in verse 5.

 He hears us before we even call to Him. “I will answer them before they even call to me. While they are still talking about their needs, I will go ahead and answer their prayers!” (Isaiah 65:24 NLT)

Scripture instructs us to pray. “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.” (Philippians 4:6)

Jesus, our perfect role model, spent much time in prayer with the Father. “While Jesus was here on earth, he offered prayers and pleadings, with a loud cry and tears, to the one who could rescue him from death. And God heard his prayers because of his deep reverence for God.” (Hebrews 5:7)


3 Ways God Answers Prayer

Does God answer our prayers? 

What do God’s answers look like?

3 Ways God Answers Prayer

Sometimes He answers “Yes.”

We can usually identify when He answers with a yes. That answer may come the way we expected or as an immediate answer. We rejoice because we know He heard us. Our faith and confidence grows.

“And this is the confidence that we have toward Him, that if we ask anything according to His will He hears us. And if we know that He hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests that we have asked of Him.” (1 John 5:14-15)

Sometimes He answers “not yet.”

When the answer is “Not Yet”, we are tempted to give up and stop praying. Don’t allow discouragement to stop you from praying. Trust Him with your request and trust His timing. We know that He has a master plan and works all things for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purpose (see Romans 8:28).

In Luke 18:1-5, Jesus taught. “And he told them a parable to the effect that they ought always to pray and not lose heart. He said, “In a certain city there was a judge who neither feared God nor respected man.

And there was a widow in that city who kept coming to him and saying, ‘Give me justice against my adversary.’

For a while he refused, but afterward he said to himself, ‘Though I neither fear God nor respect man, yet because this widow keeps bothering me, I will give her justice, so that she will not beat me down by her continual coming.’”

Sometimes, the answer is No.

In hindsight, I am thankful for many prayers that were answered with a “no.” Now I can see that God protected me from what I wanted that I “thought” was good for me.

The answers to your prayers may not line up with your own thinking, but He always answers.

Will you trust Him today to answer your prayers in ways you do not expect? In ways that are best for you?

Because of Him, Hope Prevails,
Dr. B

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