This week while Dr. Bengtson is continuing to recover from a several week-long bout with pneumonia, her friend and author Jayme Hull, will be answering a question based on her newly released book, “Face To Face Discover How Mentoring Can Change Your Life.”

Dear Jayme,

I know your book is about mentoring but how did your passion for mentoring begin?

Great question. When I arrived in NYC to become a Broadway star, I often felt about two inches tall and totally lost. Just a number in a huge crowd, surrounded by highly competitive people. Sure, I attended classes and knew a few people but I was not connected and certainly not plugged into a close community. After a few months of isolation, I had the courage to walk to Times Square and walk into a church. The pastor there listened to my story and connected me with a mentor. This woman was further down the road in her faith and she began to pour into my life on a regular basis and my life was changed forever.

How can I begin to have a safe mentoring relationship?

Finding a mentoring relationship is not just about us, but it is about God working in us for what He wants to do through us. The frequent question I receive from most women is:

“How do you find a mentor?”

1. Step out.

When I was seeking a mentor, I decided to step out and ask for help.

Ask someone to introduce you to someone that you can learn from, grow with and be nurtured by. Someone further along the path in her faith and life experiences.

2. Reach out.

Meeting and observing other Christians around you and I can sometimes be awkward and difficult but it is well worth our time. All of us need the courage to walk across the room and begin a face to face authentic conversation.

Watch the people surrounding you at church, work, where you volunteer or workout and exercise.

Reach out to someone you already know and admire. Share your desire to learn from them and ask them to meet with you for coffee to discuss mentoring.

Faith involves risk taking. You and I must intentionally step out of our comfort zone and seek others in an authentic mentoring relationship.

Ezra 10:4 “Get up…Be strong…Take action.”

As you look for a mentor don’t forget to pray first and ask for God’s guidance.

Psalm 120:1 “ In my troubles I pled with God to help me and he did!”

God will lead you to the mentoring relationship that will help you to grow and help you to discover your God-given calling. Don’t get discouraged if you don’t find a mentor right away, trust that God has the situation under control and will lead you to the right person in his timing.

“I believe mentoring isn’t just a nice idea. It’s critical for your growth—professionally, emotionally, relationally, and spiritually. Mentoring can make the difference between success and significance. Between performing at work and developing your potential. Between doing and becoming.”

Face to Face Discover How Mentoring Can Change Your LIfe by Jayme Hull

For more information about mentoring relationships, see the newly released book by Moody Press, “Face To Face Discover How Mentoring Can Change Your Life” by Jayme Hull. Check it out on Amazon here.

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What are the steps you take to find a mentor? How do you make sure the person is safe?