Parenthood and the marital relationship changes significantly after children leave home and create an empty nest. Dr. Bengtson offers advice on how to prepare.
Marriage is hard. It’s a matter daily making the choice to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, from this day forward until death do us part. Twenty-seven years later, I’m grateful for the gift of marriage and for the specific husband God gave me, and I’m grateful for the choices I made for worse, for poorer, and in sickness as well as for better, for richer, and in health.
A major contributor to blues around the holidays are unfulfilled expectations. They are too plentiful to count: our expectations of others, others’ expectations of us, our expectations of God, and even our expectations of ourselves. Most expectations are unspoken, which is akin to playing a game but no-one knowing the rules. Read on to see how to release yourself and others from the tyranny of expectations.
In our times of difficulty, we often want to know why we are suffering, or have someone to blame. I believe more damage is done by trying to place blame rather than looking for the good to come out of our storms.
Depression is much like cancer: you can’t see it yet it is very real and extremely painful; if you haven’t endured it, you don’t know what it feels like, and it not only effects the one going through it, but it also effects those who love the suffering. Read Dr. Bengtson’s post for 10 things you need to know if you have a depressed loved one.
More people suffer with depression during this time of year than any other. Having expectations of others is a fast track to the holiday blues.